If I could learn to not say something immediately, even if, as Dr. Barkley suggests, it means that I employ repeating what was said [I do this when I am confirming that I’ve heard something, like instructions, correctly, but not in instances such as this] or even putting my hand over my mouth [ which I have on occasion done to keep from interjecting my thoughts before someone is done speaking, because I want my thought to get said before the speaker unknowingly switches to a different topic, thereby leaving my thoughts on the previous subject in the dust, because they didn’t make it past short-term memory], I would have a better chance of catching my disparaging remark. I dunno. I can’t even say if I have tried that in the past. Jim could probably answer that question and he would more than likely say no, that I did not.
If I did manage to curb my disparaging remarks to Duv before saying them, I really don’t see things getting much better. Because of the differences we have, and yes, I do disagree with the way he sees many things. The problem that I see with that is that when gives input, he wants some kind of response, often because he is bouncing ideas around and wants others input. IMHO, if you are blue-collar worker and you have spent most of your 31 years around other workers [he says that he has known many a white-collar worker, however imo, the friends and peeps he hung out with the most – and I am willing to bet that most people are probably like this – are/were very similar to himself. Ipso facto, if he was a bad-boy, his best buds were more than likely bad-boys as well, and had the same trials and tribulations in dealing with theworld.] of the same ilk, you are going to form certain opinions. I, having spent most of my working career since age 20 or so in the white-collar world, with HMOs, retirement plans, and everything, have learned different patterns and different lessons. I think that because of that, we will more often than not find it hard to agree on things.
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