I'm tired of these discussions

Another discussion with Duv about what he plans to do concerning his two major choices right now: his health and money investments.

 

There are two things about him that I believe to be true, and that he has agreed with.  One, because of his spending more than a decade living off of the grid, spending weeks to maybe a small handful of months in one place, he has grown used to having to make quick decisions.  I believe that has been the main consternation he has had these last few weeks in deciding what to do with his money from the car accident.  He’s actually had the ‘luxury’ of taking time to decide and it’s very foreign to him.  I described it to him as he has spent so much time being Kirk, flying by the seat of his pants, and now, with the last seven years, he’s now in the position of Pecard, thinking things through over and over.  Even though he’s more of the latter (IMO), he’s spent so much time being the former that taking the extra time feels pretty foreign to him.  The second is that because he spent so much time off of the grid, where others learn to live by the constraints of day-to-day, 9-to-5 living, he has never conformed to it.  So, when I ask him to pick a date when he will take the tests, it seems to go against his nature.  Instead of saying that he will take the test on such-and-such a date, and doing everything he needs to to make sure that he is good to take his tests on that date, he would rather bide his time and take things slowly (the no constraints part I mentioned), and then whenever he’s ‘feeling it’ is when it happens.  I believe that he is also avoiding this test, even though this first one will be far easier on him, since we only want to gauge how he is doing on the regime that he has set up for himself.  If he’s hemming and hawing now, what is he going to do when, a year or so from now, he sets the appointment at the stem cell clinic and he has to stop everything that he does to keep himself going to take that set of tests?

 

Am I just too impatient?  Or is what I’m asking of him reasonable?