Monday, March 14, 2011

Arguing with people

People are unfortunately saddled with the fact that in times of stress, their 'new' brain dims somewhat, and when it happens, the 'old' brain relies on 'fight or flight'.  Then, a person is hard-pressed to use the rest of their brain processes, including what I refer to as 'dime-store' words lol.  As an  abstract thinker, I find myself in that state on a regular basis already, trying to corral my thoughts.  It gets doubly bad when I find myself in an argument, which is why I try to bail from them whenever possible.  Years back, long before I learned the exact reasons why, I knew I always wound up at a disadvantage.

I now have a boyfriend that wants to finish a fight to its conclusion.  That means that I never have a chance to think while in the argument.  I also don't get a moment to catch a 'mental' breath, collect my thoughts, etc.  In other words, it's like I spend the entire argument walking barefoot through a field of glass, never being allowed to stop.  Talk about pain.

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